Parenting

Teenage/Parent Relationships, Part 2

Sorry this is so late in coming! I should have done this a long time ago but I’ve not been feeling well so I was putting it off. I finally sat down and wrote my thoughts out! I’m still a bit under the weather so if some of it’s a little… uhmm… fuzzy, it’s due to the fact that it’s hard to breathe right now. =)

Q – What can a mom do to improve or facilitate her relationship with her teenage children?

Showing interest in the daughter or son is really important. Asking about their friends, things they’ve been reading, who they talk to online, things about every day life. But it’s important to remember not to nag. If they don’t reply with a direct statement, don’t keep asking the question but stop and pray for a moment about what to do next. Should you keep asking the same thing, leave the topic alone, or should you pursue a conversation about whatever it is you asked about in the first place? These are questions that should be asked on a regular basis and with the help of the Holy Spirit they will be answered in each instance. God blessed us with the Holy Spirit and it should most definitely be used within a mother/daughter or son relationship.

Q – What things hinder the relationship?

In case you weren’t personally aware, there’s somebody called Satan and he’s constantly out to steal, kill and destroy anything that is somewhat holy or righteous. So, if you get some new ground within a relationship, Satan will be trying to figure out how to damage that relationship more than it ever was. This means that you, as the mother, need to be praying for your son or daughter all the time. Satan will come in many different ways but I find that he usually tries to get to the son or daughter rather than the mother.

Basically, anything can hinder the relationship. But the solution to all things that hinder the relationship is very simple. Prayer.

Q – How do you work on building bridges?

For me, the little things in life mean a lot and I think that’s true for a lot of people. Special time spent with only Mom once felt like murder but now is one of my favorite things. Building bridges takes time–patience and perseverance–but the end result is very worth it. People take a while to change sometimes and though that may not be a bad thing, it’s easy to get discouraged and think that they will never change. But if God is in the relationship, bridges will be built and communication will be there.

Discussion

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  1. Thanks, Liana, for writing. This was encouraging and insightful!

    Reminding moms that prayer is a critical ongoing component accessible to them all at all times was great. We need to remember that and use that tool with confidence!

    Posted by Darlene | March 12, 2009, 5:39 am
  2. Liana,

    This mom of teenagers wants to thank you for sharing your thoughts! I really like what you said about “building bridges.” You are so right–the end result is so worth it!

    Love you!
    Mrs. Tomford :-)

    Posted by Judy Tomford | March 12, 2009, 5:31 pm