This woman took the words right out of my mouth.
Check out her link to American Academy of Pediatrics as well.
Excellent article! I have similar thoughts about that particular system.
I understand that by nature some people are more orderly and routine than others — therefore some need to relax and conversely, some battle to find more order. Understood.
I feel her best thoughts are reflected in the concept of following instincts. Just do what seems to nurture — we were made for that. As already mentioned, we need to improve and allow the Word to temper, curb, and change us, but God made us to be mothers, to nurture life, to care. We need to trust Him and trust in His ability to design a whole lot more than we do. We are part of a humanistic culture, and even as Christians we have grown accustomed to thinking that perhaps man can improve on what He created. I’m not convinced of that yet…
This is an area where I struggled to know what the “right” thing to do was when my three were newborns. While I never enacted a strict schedule for my kids, I did set a minimum of 2 hours between nursing sessions after my first would nurse for 2 minutes (literally) and then stop, only to want to nurse again in 5 minutes, for another 2 minutes. In my experience I feel like there should be some limit to “on-demand” nursing, while still not forcing a child to eat, sleep and play on a predetermined schedule. There were times when I chose to not heed the 2 hour minimum that I had set, but I guess it still goes back to instincts and knowing your baby.
This is a great article. I think I read the same book that she is describing in her article. I can’t dismiss everything I read because there were some good points in it but I have to admit that I found myself worrying more about whether my baby was sticking to the 3 hr feeding schedule rather than following my mothering instincts. I’ve learned so much from my first baby and will fully embrace flexibility if God blessing us with another!
I think I know the book that she was talking about. I read it too. I remember feeling very similar to the way she described after I read it. I took the stuff I liked and disregarded what i didn’t, and it worked fine. I always have a hard time with books that tout “our way works best” especially if there is no biblical basis. Thanks for sharing the article. :) I don’t always comment after I read but, I always love reading what you have to say! :)