Fashion and Modesty

Chaste and Pure; Pt.2

Last time we began a study of the “strange woman”. Let’s continue today.

    Proverbs 7:1 My son, keep my words and store up my commands within you. 2 Keep my commands and you will live; guard my teachings as the apple of your eye. 3 Bind them on your fingers; write them on the tablet of your heart. 4 Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,” and call understanding your kinsman; 5 they will keep you from the adulteress, from the wayward wife with her seductive words.

    6 At the window of my house I looked out through the lattice. 7 I saw among the simple, I noticed among the young men, a youth who lacked judgment. 8 He was going down the street near her corner, walking along in the direction of her house 9 at twilight, as the day was fading, as the dark of night set in. 10 Then out came a woman to meet him, dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent. 11 (She is loud and defiant, ; her feet never stay at home 12 now in the street, now in the squares, at every corner she lurks.) 13 She took hold of him and kissed him and with a brazen face she said: 14 “I have fellowship offerings at home; today I fulfilled my vows. 15 So I came out to meet you; I looked for you and have found you! 16 I have covered my bed with colored linens from Egypt. 17 I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes and cinnamon. 18 Come, let’s drink deep of love till morning; let’s enjoy ourselves with love! 19 My husband is not at home; he has gone on a long journey. 20 He took his purse filled with money and will not be home till full moon.” 21 With persuasive words she led him astray; she seduced him with her smooth talk. 22 All at once he followed her like an ox going to the slaughter, like a deer stepping into a noose 23 till an arrow pierces his liver, like a bird darting into a snare, little knowing it will cost him his life.

    24 Now then, my sons, listen to me; pay attention to what I say. 25 Do not let your heart turn to her ways or stray into her paths. 26 Many are the victims she has brought down; her slain are a mighty throng. 27 Her house is a highway to the grave, leading down to the chambers of death. NIV

Let’s look at a few more characteristics belonging to this wayward woman.

3. Her body language: Far from meek, this woman’s spirit effects her glance, her posture, her actions. Read Proverbs 6.

    Reproofs of instruction are the way of life, To keep you from the evil woman, From the flattering tongue of a seductress. Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, Nor let her allure you with her eyelids. For by means of a harlot A man is reduced to a crust of bread; Proverbs 6.24-26

We read that she captivates and allures with her eyes. Eyes are most telling — and unfortunately much, if not most, of our current advertising is centered on female models whose eyes are “come ons”, to put it bluntly. It is what we see everywhere we look, and our young, impressionable daughters are not always aware of the implications of those eyes. Therefore they imitate; they learn a coquettish glance, an alluring countenance, a captivating air. Beware what they view without supervision. The world around them is teaching wrong things, even in the eyes of that model on the magazine cover that just arrived in the mail. And beware yourself, lest it look tempting.

We also see that this woman is forward with her body actions — aggressive, unladylike (to borrow a concept from “old-fashioned” England), taking the young man and kissing him. Be warned. I look around and see an over-familiarity between men and women, a lack of care, a disregard for the power of stirred passion. God made us to experience something powerful — in its place. Why in its place? Because it is, indeed, powerful. Easily awakened, passion can overwhelm the most intent of us. Practice wisdom; do not unkindly or foolishly stir up passion through inconsiderate actions. Be gracious and modest.

4. Her lifestyle: Lifestyle reveals where her heart truly is. “…her feet never stay at home.” She is found in the square, on the corner, lurking and looking. Why? Home holds no affection for her. She is bored there, unfulfilled, discontent with the life God has given her. When we stop cultivating a love for the ministry He has given us, we begin filling our lives with distractions — vain attempts to find purpose, to entertain, to satisfy. It is an endless yearning that leads a woman into a pit of failure, and brings many unsuspecting fools with her.

We will be looking at the ministry of creating homes in greater depth next month. More commentary on this topic will be given then. Suffice to say, we need to understand what ministry God has for us and delight in it. His ways are life, abundant life.


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  1. Darlene i was wondering when you first start teaching your daughters about puberty? Is it before they reach there like 7 8 or 9 .I have only one daughter and I am so new at all of this.How do you go about teaching this and all the physical changes without scaring them? Thanks! Please e-mail back! Is it okey to wait till you as a mom start seeing change?

    Posted by m.c.s. | October 21, 2008, 4:41 pm